Some Parents Need Their Ass Beat

Reading the news I came across a story of a coffee shop called A Taste Of Heaven in Chicago owned by Dan McCauley. Seems he has been having problems with children yelling, running around, sprawling in the aisles and hurling themselves into display cases.
So he posts a sign saying "Children of all ages have to behave and use their indoor voices when coming to A Taste of Heaven."
This has caused an outbreak of distaste from parents who take offense at the implied criticism of how they handle their children. Do a google search for his name or read one of the stories here.
Let me share some of the comments the parents have made:

"I love people who don't have children who tell you how to parent," said Alison Miller, 35, a psychologist, corporate coach and mother of two. "I'd love for him to be responsible for three children for the next year and see if he can control the volume of their voices every minute of the day."

You don't need to have children to see that they are out of control Alison, you need to have common sense. If you had any you would see that noone is asking anyone to control the volume of a childs voice every minute of every day, only control the actions of your child in a public restaraunt when they are obviously way out of control. Why do people change what is being asked of them and go to extremes when they know they are wrong?

Laura Brauer, 40, said "I think that the mothers who allow their kids to run around and scream, that's wrong, but kids scream and there is nothing you can do about it. What are we supposed to do, not enjoy ourselves at a cafe?"

There is nothing you can do about a kid screaming? So your kids are in charge Laura? Bullshit. There is something you can do about a kid screaming, try parenting. To answer your question, yes Laura you are not suppose to enjoy yourself at a cafe at the expense of everyone else in it. Your suppose to be the one in charge, not your children.

Kim Cavitt said. "You go to a coffee shop or a bakery for a rest, to relax, and that you would have to worry the whole time about your child doing something that children do - really what they're saying is they don't welcome children, they want the child to behave like an adult."

Hey Kim, is it really restfull and relaxing at that coffee shop with your kids running around doing whatever they want and annoying everyone else that paid their money to rest and relax? It isn't something "children do" as you put it. It's something lazy parents ALLOW their children to do. No one expects your children to act like adults, we expect YOU to act like an adult.

What the hell is wrong with these people?? It's too much to ask to have some control over your children? They let them run and do whatever they want and then wonder why they have no self discipline when they get to be teenagers. They wonder why they grow up thinking they can do whatever they want? They wonder why they aren't ready for the real world when they get older and society doesn't cater to them like Mommy did and let them do what they want? Get off your lazy ass and be a parent. Teach them right from wrong. Teach them discipline. Prepare them for the real world instead of letting it slap them in the face.


Obviously this burns my ass to see people like this. My wife and I get people who will say to us "you shouldn't be so strict on him" and then these are the same idiots that turn around when we are in public and say "it's great how he is so well behaved". Get a freakin clue people, he wasn't born that way and if we weren't strict he WOULDN"T BE, he would be like yours. Besides, I don't consider it strict to expect a child to do what he is told. I was under the assumption thats how it was suppose to work.

We have had our runins with unruly and unmonitored children in public places and even in our own home. In public there isn't alot you can do about it without causing a problem and anyone that knows me knows I would never be confrontational...hehe..ok, maybe I have once or twice. But in our own home I refuse not to be. We lost a couple that was a friend of ours when we lived in Memphis for just that reason. They were over playing cards, their kids and ours were watching movies and playing. Their kids decided to play on the pooltable whipping the balls around. I told them we didn't allow kids to play on the table and they told them to stop. They stopped for about 10 minutes and then resumed in force. The parents looked and just shook their heads and said "we just can't control them". So I did. I told them to knock it off and get away from the table...they did. The parents looked at me but didn't say anything. 10 minutes later they were back at it and again the parents just shrugged their shoulders. I had had enough and got up, walked over to the kids and in my Dad voice told them to go in the other room and sit down and they will not touch my pooltable again. Their Dad started to say something and I cut him off and explained to him that it was our home and if he wasn't going to be a parent and control his children, I was. He thought better of pushing farther, got his family and left.

There is no reason other than plain laziness to let your kids run you. You are doing a disservice to them, you and everyone around you by letting them run wild and do whatever the hell they want to do. Your doing nothing but setting them up for a rude awakening. If you aren't able to be a parent and show your kids BOTH discipline and love then don't be so selfish as to have them.